지금으로 부터 5년전쯤의 사연입니다.
꽤 오랜 시간이 지났다는 생각이 들고, 또한 그녀는 한국인이 아니고 외국에 체류하는 다른 언어를 사용하는 중국인이어서
이제는 그녀와의 사연을 이곳에 따뜻한 추억으로 남겨도 큰 무리가 없을 것이라는 판단하에 소개하고자 합니다.
영국에서 공부하는 20대 초반의 중국인 아가씨가 저에게 안면윤곽을 받으러 찾아 온 적이 있었습니다.
남자친구가 동행하였으며, 그는 수술전 상담에서 부터 수술후 입원실에서 관리및 경과관찰을 위해서 내원할 때 항상 동행하여 그녀의 의지가 되어 주었습니다.
그녀의 남자친구는 굉장히 스마트하였으며, 이해력이 빠르고 여자친구에 대한 따뜻한 배려심이 있었습니다.
그녀는 저에게 수술을 받고 2주가량 체류한 뒤 영국으로 다시 돌아갔으며, 저는 말도 잘 통하지 않는 이곳 한국까지 찾아와서 나름대로 불안하고 큰 수술일 수도 있었을 테니 궁금한 부분이나 불안한 부분이 있으며 항상 연락하라고 제 매일 주소를 알려 주었습니다.
이후 안부메일을 간간이 주고 받는 사이가 되었습니다.
20년 가까이 차이가 나는 저에게 Brother이라고 불러도 되냐고 묻길래, 흔쾌히 저도 Sister이라고 불렀습니다.
아래는 그녀와 제가 주고 받은 메일의 일부에서 이름만 뺀 내용들입니다.
저의 영어 편지글이 어법이나 문법에 다소 맞지 않더라도 이해해 주시기 바랍니다^.^
Dear Bro,
Do you check your email everyday? cause Inever expect you can reply to me so quickly.......by the way, your english isso so so good that i can not believe it is from an Asian people.....normallyasian people can not have a very good writing style....so i guess you havestudied aboard as well when you were a school boy? guessing.......;)
I am not complaining becuase i know you and your team did the best for me,that is a strong belief and will of doctors, i deeply trusted that.
I think when i finish my paper and otherdistupt things i will go korea again, because we like korea and miss it sincewe are back UK, I like the food,especially the BBQ pork or beef, i heard korea beef is more expensive thanother beef or pork from aboard, i surprised, however, i did not try the famousBBQ and any sight of view, i have never been to other places except hospital and hotel....SO, i will go nexttime.....not long later......so you wil see me agian......-
Actually, I am thinking, just thinking,would i share my experience to other people in UK or US or Canada or Austrailiastudents or working people about Korea beauty trip in your clinic? I think we can help a lot of people like medo not have enough confidence but eagerly wanna to be different, i found therewere lots of people.....they have no luck like me to get a good doctor, they even do not know how togo to korea and find clinic....they worry about the risk and consequences, theycan not have their dream come true....
I am wondering after two months when i get my things done, i can help people like this way: to build adirect bridge to you or your clinic andmake they who had needs or dreams get through.....
one more question, when i walked in thestreet of korea, i am curious that how many korea lady did the plastic surgery,everyone? I heard some one did from a very early age, like 14 or 15.......
and when my mother saw me when i chattedwith her by internet, she screamed that my eyes became bigger, and face becamelonger, because of the swelling she was not aware of facial bonechanged...every day, mirror is my best friends....i watched myself in front ofmirror million times a day and prayed that i will be excellent pretty...HAHA...
Do you have child? How many child do youhave? I assume you have a big harmony family....because your smile is sweet andhappy....
Hope you and your familly go well......
Yours,
Dear my sister ^^
I’m so sorry for latereply.
Of couse, I check my email daily. However, I’ve missed some important mails because there are so many spam mails.
Now, It’s my great pleasure to find your mail to me^^
What about the weather in England these days?
It’s so humid and still rains a lot in Seoul because of the influence of hurricane.
Nowadyas, There are alot of Korean girls who get the aesthetic surgery
The reason is that the concepts and perceptions about aesthetic surgery is so popularized inKorea.
But, I don’t agree to do aesthetic surgery for early or middle teenagers.
Thank you so much for your trust in me and our staffs.
In Korea, there aresome plastic surgeons in big aesthetic clinics who do their best not in the treatment or procedure to the patients but in advertisement only.
I think that doctors should do their best in the surgical procedure.
I always feel deep sympathy and compassion for the person who wanna get surgery or treatment tome.
There is no relationship between the surgery, medication and vaccine injection.
And, you don’t fit any one of the questionnaire.
So, You don’t need to worry about to get the vaccination.
I would like to serveyou Korean BBQ when you stay in Seoul next time^.^
Autumn is so beautiful and lovely season in Korea
I am really looking forward to meet you at that time^.^
Sinerely yours,
Jae-young Chung
DearBro,
I do not know why i always feel warm from your email. Bro, I met something bigin my life right now. The incident I have been through over half year.
I think I really need your advise..since my parents always said all depends onmy choice. I can not find someone i can get advise from except you.
The guy with me you met last time actually is my boyfriend, we made a plan thisyear to get married after he got the residently permit in UK, this March, hefinally got it, i thought i will be happy forever, because the most hardiestpart we have done already (the waiting time is so long to get theresidently permit), however the he told me that his ex-girlfriend wanted himback and kept contacts with his mother all the time even during two years i hadrelationship with him! I was shocked you can not imagine how do i feel atthat time. Since March, the suffer began.
From that time until now, my life is full of his exgirlfriend and his mother,his exgirlfriend had a lot of money, like 2 hundred million RMB, the money shecan live for 10 lifetimes or more, she wanted the man back by all meansshe can do, like family, their eight years relationship, like suicide,and more. But i can not understand why the girl do those things after two yearslater, when they were toghter they hanged out without each other, and they bothknew they were not fit to each other, the girl do not care about the man, theman do not like or love enough this girl, so before the man met me, he hadseveral one night stands with other women and she knew that. they both knewthey had problems with each other.
Now, the man think he is almost 30 years old, he have no more time to waster inhis career, he needs helps from her family, but he loves me and do not give upme, at the same time, the girl do not give up disturbing my life. Now the mancan not decide which one he wanna to be with.
My parents are very busy (my mother works for gorvernment and mydad manages business) and they always respect my choice, butthis time i can not decide how do i deal with, and rightnow i am doingmy dissertation and preparing my career, i do not havemuch time to think about, because ineed write except sleeping time. I feel myheart is completely broke, and the words he saidto me always remiand me that how much he lovedme, but now, see what is happened?
I asked him whether he loves that girl or not, he said it is not about love, itis a relationship like family, they walked through togother 8 years, and iasked him how about me, he answered that is love, because no one fits him likei did, we are perfect match. Maybe i am young, I just think lovechanges world, make different. I do not why the man do not know how to decide.We talked a lot of times, but no results came out.
If he do not choose me, that means he do not love me or he do not love meengouh? If he choose me, can i be with a guy like that?
Everyday, I feel miserable and need to spend some time to cry or just sittingwithout thinking, I feel i almost crash. I can not stand any more.
As a good man, i do believe you can give me some useful advises.....do not feelembarrasy just ask me what you need to know or what do you feel, because thatis very important to me. It is my life turning point.
I would like hear from you. You can tell me your love story if you like, ibelieve that is sweet and happy...I just wanna be simple and happy, i do notwannna to hurt anyone....what do you think true love? Does it exist? How do youknow that is true love?
Dear my sister ^^
I had been insummer vacation and I came back yesterday.
In this summervacation, I had stayed at small resort in east sea side of Korea.
The resort where Ihad been did not provide wireless internet service, So I couldn’t send ane-mail.
Anyway, I am sosorry about you in trouble.
It is very hard forme to give you a good advice because I can’t imagine how deep your love is forhim.
Moreover, I don’tknow what the true heart of him is.
I’m afraid that my comment may hurt you.
Actually speaking,I think that you’d better separate from him.
I agree with themention as following in the Novel “Little Prince”
“Love does not consist on gazing at each other, but inlooking together in the same direction”
The feeling and color of love change by time.
He may look at so realistic side apart from you.
So there are many possibilities of conflict and troublebetween you and him if he is realist.
Next time, I willtell you about my love story.
The weather inSeoul is so fine.
Blue sky, clearatmosphere and moderate temperature~
Please, don’t beserious and sad at your present
It, too, shall havepass anyway!
Sincerely yours,
Jae-young Chung
처음엔 수술후 얼굴 경과에 대한 메일을 몇번 주고 받다가, 어느 순간 그녀의 인생고민을 접하게 되었고 무거운 마음에서 한참의 고민끕에 제 나름의 조언을 그녀에게 보내 주었습니다.
저의 메일 이후로 거의 1년가까이 연락이 없었습니다.
1년만에 다시 연락이 왔는데, 예전에 얘기한 Boyfriend가 이제는 본인의 Husband가 되었으며, 조만간 그 남자 혼자서 한국으로 가서 저를 찾아서 안면윤곽 수술을 받을 예정이니 잘 부탁한다는 내용이었습니다.
헤어지는 것이 좋겠다고 조언을 하였는데, 그 둘은 결혼을 하였고 결국 그녀의 남편은 저에게 와서 안면윤곽 수술을 받고 영국으로 다시 돌아갔습니다.