A Certain Connection 4

This is a story from about 5 years ago.

It has been quite some time, and she is not Korean but a Chinese woman living abroad who speaks another language, so

I have decided that it should be fine to share this story here as a warm memory of our connection.

A young Chinese woman in her early 20s who was studying in the UK once came to see me to receive facial contouring surgery.

Her boyfriend came with her, and from the preoperative consultation to the follow-up visits after surgery, including care and observation in the hospital, he always accompanied her and became her support.

Her boyfriend was very smart, quick to understand, and had a warm consideration for his girlfriend.

After receiving surgery from me, she stayed for about two weeks and then returned to the UK. Since the trip had brought her all the way to Korea, where it was hard to communicate, and it might have been a rather anxious and major surgery for her, I gave her my email address and told her to contact me anytime if she had any questions or worries.

After that, we exchanged occasional emails to check in on each other.

She asked whether she could call me Brother, though I was nearly 20 years older than her, and I gladly called her Sister as well.

Below are some excerpts from the emails we exchanged, with only the names removed.

Please understand if my English writing is somewhat awkward in grammar or style^.^

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Dear Bro,

Do you check your email everyday? cause Inever expect you can reply to me so quickly.......by the way, your english isso so so good that i can not believe it is from an Asian people.....normallyasian people can not have a very good writing style....so i guess you havestudied aboard as well when you were a school boy? guessing.......;)

I am not complaining becuase i know you and your team did the best for me,that is a strong belief and will of doctors, i deeply trusted that.

I think when i finish my paper and otherdistupt things i will go korea again, because we like korea and miss it sincewe are back UK, I like the food,especially the BBQ pork or beef, i heard korea beef is more expensive thanother beef or pork from aboard, i surprised, however, i did not try the famousBBQ and any sight of view, i have never been to other places except hospital and hotel....SO, i will go nexttime.....not long later......so you wil see me agian......-

Actually, I am thinking, just thinking,would i share my experience to other people in UK or US or Canada or Austrailiastudents or working people about Korea beauty trip in your clinic? I think we can help a lot of people like medo not have enough confidence but eagerly wanna to be different, i found therewere lots of people.....they have no luck like me to get a good doctor, they even do not know how togo to korea and find clinic....they worry about the risk and consequences, theycan not have their dream come true....

I am wondering after two months when i get my things done, i can help people like this way: to build adirect bridge to you or your clinic andmake they who had needs or dreams get through.....

one more question, when i walked in thestreet of korea, i am curious that how many korea lady did the plastic surgery,everyone? I heard some one did from a very early age, like 14 or 15.......

and when my mother saw me when i chattedwith her by internet, she screamed that my eyes became bigger, and face becamelonger, because of the swelling she was not aware of facial bonechanged...every day, mirror is my best friends....i watched myself in front ofmirror million times a day and prayed that i will be excellent pretty...HAHA...

Do you have child? How many child do youhave? I assume you have a big harmony family....because your smile is sweet andhappy....

Hope you and your familly go well......

Yours,

Dear my sister ^^

I’m so sorry for latereply.

Of couse, I check my email daily. However, I’ve missed some important mails because there are so many spam mails.

Now, It’s my great pleasure to find your mail to me^^

What about the weather in England these days?

It’s so humid and still rains a lot in Seoul because of the influence of hurricane.

Nowadyas, There are alot of Korean girls who get the aesthetic surgery

The reason is that the concepts and perceptions about aesthetic surgery is so popularized inKorea.

But, I don’t agree to do aesthetic surgery for early or middle teenagers.

Thank you so much for your trust in me and our staffs.

In Korea, there aresome plastic surgeons in big aesthetic clinics who do their best not in the treatment or procedure to the patients but in advertisement only.

I think that doctors should do their best in the surgical procedure.

I always feel deep sympathy and compassion for the person who wanna get surgery or treatment tome.

There is no relationship between the surgery, medication and vaccine injection.

And, you don’t fit any one of the questionnaire.

So, You don’t need to worry about to get the vaccination.

I would like to serveyou Korean BBQ when you stay in Seoul next time^.^

Autumn is so beautiful and lovely season in Korea

I am really looking forward to meet you at that time^.^

Sinerely yours,

Jae-young Chung

DearBro, I do not know why i always feel warm from your email. Bro, I met something bigin my life right now. The incident I have been through over half year.

I think I really need your advise..since my parents always said all depends onmy choice. I can not find someone i can get advise from except you.

The guy with me you met last time actually is my boyfriend, we made a plan thisyear to get married after he got the residently permit in UK, this March, hefinally got it, i thought i will be happy forever, because the most hardiestpart we have done already (the waiting time is so long to get theresidently permit), however the he told me that his ex-girlfriend wanted himback and kept contacts with his mother all the time even during two years i hadrelationship with him! I was shocked you can not imagine how do i feel atthat time. Since March, the suffer began.

From that time until now, my life is full of his exgirlfriend and his mother,his exgirlfriend had a lot of money, like 2 hundred million RMB, the money shecan live for 10 lifetimes or more, she wanted the man back by all meansshe can do, like family, their eight years relationship, like suicide,and more. But i can not understand why the girl do those things after two yearslater, when they were toghter they hanged out without each other, and they bothknew they were not fit to each other, the girl do not care about the man, theman do not like or love enough this girl, so before the man met me, he hadseveral one night stands with other women and she knew that. they both knewthey had problems with each other.

Now, the man think he is almost 30 years old, he have no more time to waster inhis career, he needs helps from her family, but he loves me and do not give upme, at the same time, the girl do not give up disturbing my life. Now the mancan not decide which one he wanna to be with.

My parents are very busy (my mother works for gorvernment and mydad manages business) and they always respect my choice, butthis time i can not decide how do i deal with, and rightnow i am doingmy dissertation and preparing my career, i do not havemuch time to think about, because ineed write except sleeping time. I feel myheart is completely broke, and the words he saidto me always remiand me that how much he lovedme, but now, see what is happened?

I asked him whether he loves that girl or not, he said it is not about love, itis a relationship like family, they walked through togother 8 years, and iasked him how about me, he answered that is love, because no one fits him likei did, we are perfect match. Maybe i am young, I just think lovechanges world, make different. I do not why the man do not know how to decide.We talked a lot of times, but no results came out.

If he do not choose me, that means he do not love me or he do not love meengouh? If he choose me, can i be with a guy like that?

Everyday, I feel miserable and need to spend some time to cry or just sittingwithout thinking, I feel i almost crash. I can not stand any more.

As a good man, i do believe you can give me some useful advises.....do not feelembarrasy just ask me what you need to know or what do you feel, because thatis very important to me. It is my life turning point.

I would like hear from you. You can tell me your love story if you like, ibelieve that is sweet and happy...I just wanna be simple and happy, i do notwannna to hurt anyone....what do you think true love? Does it exist? How do youknow that is true love?

Dear my sister ^^

I had been insummer vacation and I came back yesterday.

In this summervacation, I had stayed at small resort in east sea side of Korea.

The resort where Ihad been did not provide wireless internet service, So I couldn’t send ane-mail.

Anyway, I am sosorry about you in trouble.

It is very hard forme to give you a good advice because I can’t imagine how deep your love is forhim.

Moreover, I don’tknow what the true heart of him is.

I’m afraid that my comment may hurt you.

Actually speaking,I think that you’d better separate from him.

I agree with themention as following in the Novel “Little Prince”

“Love does not consist on gazing at each other, but inlooking together in the same direction”

The feeling and color of love change by time.

He may look at so realistic side apart from you.

So there are many possibilities of conflict and troublebetween you and him if he is realist.

Next time, I willtell you about my love story.

The weather inSeoul is so fine.

Blue sky, clearatmosphere and moderate temperature~

Please, don’t beserious and sad at your present

It, too, shall havepass anyway!

Sincerely yours,

Jae-young Chung

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At first, we exchanged several emails about her postoperative facial progress, but at some point I came to hear about the worries in her life, and after a long period of concern in my own mind, I sent her my own advice.

After my email, we had almost no contact for about a year.

After a year, she contacted me again and said that the boyfriend she had mentioned before was now her husband, and that soon he would be coming to Korea alone to see me and receive facial contouring surgery, asking me to take good care of him.

I had advised that it would be better for them to break up, but the two got married, and in the end her husband came to me, received facial contouring surgery, and then returned to the UK.