“If You Get Angry, You Lose” — One Sentence That Protected My Day

At 8 a.m., in front of the graduate school research lab.

I was moving research equipment one by one from the car.

Then a security guard came up to me and spoke in a rather rough tone.

“Sir, move your car!”

“Ah, I’ll move it right away after unloading. I’m not parked here—I just need to unload some things.”

“Come on, you can’t park here. Move it quickly!”

“Yes, I know. That’s why I came early to unload the equipment. Please wait just a little.”

“Hey, what are you doing right now? I told you to move it quickly!”

His manner and attitude were rude, but at that moment one sentence flashed through my mind.

It was something I had heard on YouTube a few days earlier from LG Twins general manager Cha Myung-seok.

Source - Kim Seung-woo WIN YouTube

'The one who gets angry is the one who loses.'

Come to think of it, that makes sense.

Even if emotions rise in the moment, reacting emotionally does not improve the situation.

If anything, it only hurts both sides’ feelings and is a perfect way to ruin the day.

In the end, I quickly unloaded everything and moved the car.

And as I left the lab, I kept repeating to myself:

“Yeah, I held back well. Thanks to that, my day is safe.”

Why do some people get angry so easily?

Why was that security guard so irritated?

Maybe it was because of exhaustion from repeated situations like that,

or maybe something unpleasant had happened to him that day.

What is certain is that getting annoyed at someone

does not make that person feel any better.

A book title suddenly came to mind.

『Don't Let Your Mood Become Your Attitude』

『How to Smile and Deal with Rude People』

I thought that if I go to a bookstore sometime soon, I should definitely open them.

Words Hidden Behind Anonymity

The hateful comments I received on YouTube

When you run a YouTube channel and a blog, you sometimes run into hateful comments.

Naver Blog is relatively quiet, perhaps because there is at least some chance that a person's identity can be revealed,

but on YouTube, because of anonymity, the level of language can sometimes be quite severe.

At first, it was quite shocking.

Above all, I think it was even more shocking when they criticized me sharply with things that were not true.

When I saw comments like that,

I thought, “So this is why celebrities struggle because of hateful comments.”

But as time passed, I decided to slightly change my perspective.

“Hateful comments are still attention.”

I would comfort myself with those words and steady my mind.

Silence can be more heartbreaking than hateful comments.

Why I Reply Politely to Hateful Comments

These days, even if a hateful comment is posted, I try not to delete it and instead leave a polite reply.

Sometimes I add a bit of wit as well.

The reason is simple.

It is meant to make the person who left the comment feel embarrassed themselves,

and to let third parties reading my post naturally feel who was more rude.

Source - You Quiz on the Block

I remember something Yoo Jae-suk said on tvN’s <You Quiz on the Block>.

“Hateful comments are never attention. Silence is better than hateful comments.”

Come to think of it, that is so true.

Hateful comments only wear me down in the end.

They drain emotional energy and just leave me feeling hurt.

It is truly useless consumption.

Misunderstandings Can Be Cleared Up With Words

Once, a patient who had received treatment left a comment attacking me on YouTube.

They mentioned a specific conversation, so I could tell right away who it was.

I felt I couldn’t just let it pass, so I contacted them carefully,

and after talking directly, I realized it was a misunderstanding.

They were very flustered too, and after our conversation they kept saying, “I’m sorry.”

After going through that, I felt it once again.

That when you face each other and talk, both emotions and misunderstandings can be resolved.

That the tone in a comment is not everything.

What Matters More Than Feelings Is My Day

The habit of taking a step back when emotions rise.

The attitude of not being shaken by words written in reliance on anonymity.

In the end, each of these attitudes is a way to protect my day.

Will getting angry make you feel better?

No. It only leaves wounds behind.

“If you get angry, you lose.”

It is a sentence I must not forget.

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